Should I quit my job as a software developer to take care of my 9 month old twin girls?

I am afraid I will be too far behind on technology to re-enter the workforce after taking a couple years off, but I hate dropping my girls off at daycare every day! I also make a pretty good living doing what I do, and I would have to rely on my husband's salary alone. I like having my own spending money. :)

Should I quit my job as a software developer to take care of my 9 month old twin girls?
its up to you, i see a lot of parents like you at my mothers daycare, one lady started crying because she didn't want to leave her baby daughter, it can be heartbreaking, i would stay home with them, but its up to you, and saying you like to have your own spending money.. if you are married shouldn't your money be together? you know whats mine is his and whats his is mine?
Reply:see what you can do from home. I insurance I can do what I do at my office at my home. your job was software you can do it from home. best of luck.
Reply:Only you can decide. If you were my daughter I would say YOU take care of the children you brought into the world. Life is not about money and technology, it's about doing the right thing. Like I say, only YOU can decide what the right thing is.
Reply:I can't think of anything more important in the world than my children.
Reply:Don't let strangers like us tell you what is right for you in terms of raising your children. There are pros and cons to being a stay-at-home mom and to being a working mother. Make the decision that is right for you, your husband, and your children.





If you decide to be a stay-at-home mom, have you considered talking with your boss about the possibility of working part-time from home? You could remain involved in the ever-changing technology AND be a full-time mother.
Reply:It depends. Are you happier at your job, or spending the day with the twins? Is the caretaker expensive- as in you make almost as much as you have to pay him/her? If it is thats something you need to consider. It's a personal decision. GoodLuck
Reply:I've never regretted it! I don't miss the money--we have more to spend now since I'm not commuting, I don't need work clothes, I'm not spending my own money on my job (I was a teacher), I cook more and eat out less, and I'm happier in general. I'm proud to cut back on spending all the time. I get excited when I buy something for a great price or I come up with new ways to save money. I love to come up with new ideas for saving money. Whatever you decide, there will be something for you to do when you're ready to work again. If you decide to stay home, be prepared to work hard! It's tough, dirty work and I love it! Good luck!





Someone suggested saving a nest egg for your children. My SIL has lots of money, she makes a lot and so does her husband. Guess who has more money in the savings account? Me, the SAHM. Her kids are terrors because they never get any attention between day care for 50 hours a week, grandma's house in the evening, and going home just to sleep. No one reads them stories, paints with them or makes cookies with them. kids can grow up and make their own money. Not all working parents neglect their kids, I know, but saving money for your children is not all there is. Kids need the attention of their parents. The more, the better.
Reply:When you're 80 years old, and looking back on your life, do you really think you will regret time spent with your children? You are the most important person in their lives, and the first years are so important. Too important to be left up to a minimum wage day-care worker who may not even like your kids, let alone love them like you do. I really don't see a choice here. Raise your children.
Reply:I would continue working so you have a good nest egg for your kids.
Reply:If I had twins I would definitely not work full time but I would work part time. If you can afford to then do it and just work part time.
Reply:Nobody can know the answer to that but you.


But there are options for you:


I am the mom of an 8-month-old boy and I work from home as a webmaster / internet application developer.


Now that he is getting more active, I decided to have someone come 3 days a week, for half a day.


Her pay is half my pay so it makes financial sense.


I am lucky my company is very flexible and I can do that.


I love taking care of him and those few hours with the nanny give me time to catch up and be really productive.


You can do it.


It feels great and they will only be babies once, so enjoy them.


Lots of luck
Reply:Yes, you will be far behind. I retired from Oracle and it was only about 18 months before I was considered ancient.





Talk with your employer and see if you can work at home for 3-4 days a week. As a developer, there is little need for you to be in the office and you can work more comfortably and be as or more productive at home. I did this quite a bit during my working years. Heck, they might even spring for DSL service so you can get faster access to the company site!
Reply:See if there are some things that your boss would allow you to do at home so that in this way there is more time spent with them and less time at the office. There can be a compromise with working from home and while the children are down for their nap. Working earlier before they get up and you can sell your boss on the fact that most virtual office workers produce more than being at and office. I think that compromising is better than not working at all - and you know that technology changes just about daily and being two years behind would be like starting over. Who doesn't like their own money to spend - shopping is a pleasure. SMILE
Reply:omg do u even have to ask this question? let's seee. YES QUIT ASAP.





why do women pop out kidlets only to farm them out to paid sources such as daycare???





how often do u think your kid's noses are being whiped and dipaers changed??? heloooooooooooooo.





and at 9 months? I have a 2 y/o who depends entirely on me for everything he does. i could not dream of leaving him at the hands of babysitters or day care centers.





u like having your own spending money cause it's convenient for YOU, so u can buy the things U want.





how about putting your children's best interest first, like a mommie is supposed to do. how about learning how to budget so that only one of you (your wobby) has to work, and you stay home with your kids?





remember, they can replace u at work in about 2.4 days, but no one can replace u as the mom of your kids.





little story: one day a 7 y/o came home from school. he ran to his mommies arms who was waiting for him. the child ran to her busom and said "today we had a substitute teacher, AND a substitute bus driver. Mamma i'm glad there's no subsitute for you"
Reply:Can you compromise and go part time??





And i am sure that you could find a similar job that is part time if you cant go part time in your current job.





Good luck